I agree 100% that it is not acceptable for H to be taking D7 around OW. D7 does let me know if she is taken around OW now. I will not tolerate that for 1 minute.
Yes OW is also married. She is a skank. I found out about her by checking H's phone records one year ago this month. Saw the same # several times a day so I called it. It was a business that she runs. Could not get her on the phone and I did not leave a message.
Confronted H about her and he said he went to school with her and she is M for 21 years now. I did some digging at marriage licenses and found out he was lying to me or she was lying to him because she has only been M for 8 years now.
The child she takes around my H is her H's son. She only has 1 child who is 16. H and her "dated" in high school.
I found out her last name and did some more digging and found out an address. Went there a couple of times but could never catch her H at home alone.
She is a coward. After I found out they were talking I followed my H one night when he thought I was home and caught them meeting up in a parking lot. I blocked them both in and confronted her but she rolled up her windows and locked the doors. Refused to get out.
After I moved out I started worrying about finances. I have a truck that is only 2 years old and was afraid I would not be able to pay for it alone and at the time did not have CS established so H "made a deal" with me stating that he would make the payment as long as I did not tell OW H and stir up a bunch of stuff. I felt I had no choice at that time.
Well since then I threatened to tell him again when I found out about him taking D7 around her and he said I would see vindictive if I tell. He said he would not pay CS and would not work if he had to just to avoid paying.
I did talk to my lawyer about it. He obviously has to find a way to pay the CS. I told H he would only be hurting D7.
But he is so far in the fog with that skank that he can't see straight. I debated for a long while about telling the OW's H. I feel he has a right to know but I am just scared to do it.
H's mom lives up north and I called her and told her about it but H denys it all to her. Says they are just friends. All other friends and family know about it already. His "buddies" don't seem to mind.
