Hey, Jeff, Sounds like you are doing well, all things considered. Try to detach from her back-and-forth stuff. It will NOT be a steady pace for improvement in the sitch, it's more of a dance, so be prepared...three steps forward, two steps back. Look for overall trends, not the daily switcheroos in her attitude. Try to focus on what you can do to find pieces of yourself that might have gotten lost along the way.
I think you are really starting to get the hang of this, though. I know it is all so hard, every day, but if you want to come out the other side of this, you can't go over, under, or around the tough work--the only way out is THROUGH.
I'm glad to hear you have been working with Jody. She is my DB coach too--I've had six sessions with her, and I'd get more if I had bucks to spare! She is so great, and so helpful--I always feel so much more hopeful after I talk with her, and more confident about my course of action. You can't go wrong with following her advice--she can really cut through to the heart of the matter!
Do what you need to do to recharge your batteries regularly for this marathon. Find fun things to do without her, alone or with friends--so you don't have to have that mask on and can relax and just enjoy yourself. Hang in there, keep up the good work!
Peace and blessings, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
