dfb,

Thanks. The thought of how traumatic divorce is is what is keeping me from actually finalizing our papers. I don't want to go there. I think cutting all contact for a while will be good for right now.

His mom, who has married 3 times says that divorce is not the answer. She's been encouraging me to hang in there. But it's so tough so see someone you love be willing to hurt you repeatedly and not even be sorry.

Thanks for your support. I feel a lot more grounded today than I did yesterday....thanks mostly to all the responses I got yesterday from this board. I hated him so much yesterday...today I feel sad for him and pray he'll be able to come out of this funk he's in and be the h I know God wants him to be.