ow loves to call

[mdoodles]

i am new to posting but not new to this board. i have been actively reading posts and dbing since april 08. brief background

married 7 years, me 30, H 29, DS 5.

my husband moved out october 2006
we decided to start working towards him coming home october 2007.
he moves home march 2008 - for me to discover there was ow the entire time.
we try for like a week to make it work, he flips, tells me wants divorce, i refuse mediation.
H moves out again May 2008
he files divorce and at the same time, decides he doesnt want it.

that was june 2008.

so here we are. things improving between us, yet the OW, or shall i say, girl (21), is still around. slightly psycho. she has called me several times to leave THEM alone. she calls and tells me she is g-d forbid pregnant (she is not). not to mention she loves to posts facebook profile pictures of the 2 of them to taunt me (even though i can see the pictures are not new). when i have spoken to her, im nice and respectful, i just tell her how it is. i have told her, "look, i dont blame you, i blame him. but he was never honest with you. he has cheated on you the whole time, because we are still sleeping together and still very much married. we are not going through a divorce and my house is not for sale etc."

has anyone ever heard of the OW continuely calling the wife and taunting her?

im losing it. ive been at this a long time already and things between my H and i are ok enough that we can discuss her. that i can rant and rave and he doesnt get angry.

BUT, im tired of hearing its a process for him to end it with her.

any suggestions?