Is this marriage right for me?

[dfb]

It was very disappointing but then he's always talked to me like that...nothing has changed.

I had posted yesterday in my thread about the whole changing thing (in separation).

IMHO, you can't expect him to change. You loved him and wanted to be with him even when he was a jerk, right? My ex-b has things about him that drive me up the wall. But this whole DB thing is about us and how we can change and then it makes positive changes (hopefully) in our R's. Maybe you did that for standing up for yourself.

We have to be the ones to change - we are the ones that are looking to have our R's back. I don't expect ex-b to change at all - except if he wants me back, to commit fully to me. That is pretty much it. I'd love it if he talked to me also when problems came up. But I don't expect that he'll change, even on things that irritate the heck out of me.