2008 = Crazy Year (Havin Fun @ 21?)

[Tawnya]

{{{LIS}}} This just has to be a tough time for you and I wish I had something wonderful and magical to say..but we ARE here for you and YOU are all about strength and honor and you are so going above and beyond in doing the right thing for your family, for yourself, and for your kids..so stay strong!

Tawnya

[karen43]

LIS, how are you doing today??? Karen

[Babygirl]

Hey LIS, checking on you to see how you are holding up today, do whats best for you and your children, let her wither away and destroy herself.
thinking of you my bud.

[lost_in_space]

(((Karen))), (((Tawnya))), (((BG)))

Thank you lovely ladies for stopping by! I am home today with an ill D11. No problem- getting work stuff done from here.

W took S14 (his B'day today) to another city for a hockey game (to watch tonight, not play). Before they left, here is the conversation with S14 listening (as recorded...):

W: (slightly inaudible) Can you go on the computer and transfer cash so S14 and I can have some.

Me: There is no cash to transfer.

(Inaudible portions - essentially W says there is cash, Lost says you wrote a $2000 cheque and cleared out the cash, account is in overdraft)

W: I told you I was writing a $2000 cheque to cover off my credit card for expenses when D16 and I were in LA. You were aware of that.

Me: and how much were you reimbursed for that?

W: Nothing - that is D16's and my expenses.

Me: and how much were you reimbursed for that?

W: Nothing - that is D16's and my expenses. Do you want to see my credit card? (inaudible portion) All I am saying is give me some money so that I can take us to other city and we can have something to eat.

Me: just use the credit card

W: no I am not putting it on my credit card.

Me: there is no cash

W: you have got thousands of dollars in your account, from your - your - in your bank account from your income and you job so don't give me that chit.

Me: there isn't thousands of dollars.

W: well there is money in your account so transfer it. We need some money to go to other city.

Me: you have an account as well.

W: Lost, this is family expenses

Me: and you can contribute to that as well

W: no I don't and I never have and I never will. You pay me for my job to stay at home. This is my full time job. What I do over and above that obviously is going to be my money. But my job currently is a stay at home mom which was mutually agreed upon by both of us. Therefore I am entitled to your income as well. So please put some money in that account so S14 and I can eat.

Me: If I had money to put ...

W: Lost, don't give me that chit. You know damn well how much money you make.

Me: Yeah I do.

W: I don't believe this

(rest inaudible due to background noise)

So - what could I have done better folks? Should I really care anymore? I know, a question that only I can answer.

[Sugar and Spice]

Did she actually say that you pay her for staying home? Seriously?

I think you did fine. So becuase her money is "hers" she can only spend it on "herself?" She is too greedy to spend money on her own son? Sad.

I personally think you did great!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

OK, let me see if I get this straight . . .

Your wife puts stuff on her credit card, for which she's reimbursed by her company? And then she KEEPS the money, and asks YOU for money, to pay for the same expenses???

Her attitude is unbelievable. Quite the Entitled Bi%ch Princess. You are BOTH responsible for helping to share the family's financial needs, in PROPORTION to your incomes. If you make 3x what she does, fine, but she should still be contributing 25% to the family's expenses. Just because you make more, doesn't make her money all "fun" money that she can use to do whatever she wants with, ESPECIALLY to cheat on the family!!!!!

Puppy

[lost_in_space]

Puppy, not quite.

W puts stuff on card and gets reimbursed from friends, etc for the stuff she has paid for. So in her twisted view, family $$ pays for the credit card yet any reimbursement she would say is "mine - all mine".

Attitude as unbelievable??????? 2009 has just begun, but that may be the understatement of the year!

[lost_in_space]

Did she actually say that you pay her for staying home? Seriously?

I think you did fine. So becuase her money is "hers" she can only spend it on "herself?" She is too greedy to spend money on her own son? Sad.

I personally think you did great!

(((S&S))) thank you.

I do not pay her for staying home - she just has used whatever cash there has been as if I did.

I have to say it is getting VERY EASY to hold my cool, BUT the k's in the room has to stop.

[Sugar and Spice]

I do not pay her for staying home - she just has used whatever cash there has been as if I did.

I knew that was actually the case when I posted, I just could not BELIEVE that she would think that, let alone say it out loud and think it was ok.

I'm sorry Randy, but your W needs some serious psychiatric counseling. She is delusional and your k's are being made to suffer because she is being a child instead of an adult.

[lost_in_space]

(((S+S)))

She is sick. She is delusional. She is lost (Puppy you were right). She is so alone and dragging the kids down.