I'm here........

[Sugar and Spice]

Hey Sue, have lurked here and there, but I just feel like I need to say this. Take it or leave it, but my sitch has addiction and an A. If I have learned ANYTHING from this situation it is that addicts are liars. They will tell you whatever they think you need to hear so they can maintain their addiction. My H is all about the "status quo" and will do anything he has to in order to keep it, his gambling has just about cost him everything and it is still not enough for him to stop or change, but as long as we are all still playing along, there is no reason to change.

Like my situation your H has done this twice now. Unlikely without some serious soul searching and help and of course the 'want' to change he won't change. He will do this as long as he is allowed.

Exaclty what I was saying.

The Alanon meeting is for you. There are people there that have similar experiences and its good for learning coping techniques as well as a good support group.

Anyway, take it for what its worth. In the end we all have to do what is right for us, but you also have to consider how this is affecting your D. I feel for you.