If I could just see a little movement in her, forward or backward, I'd be able to figure out something.
: ) No you wouldn't. That sounds glib...and it is. And more importantly it is true.
If you wife is a true MLC then what is true for her today will likely not be true for her tomorrow, or next week or next month. So, no you will not be able to figure her out. More importantly you are wasting time trying to figure her out or what she is thinking or what she is planning. You will not only be wasting your time, you will drive yourself crazy and despair.
GAL = Get(ting) A Life = Doing something. Hopefully something that improves you...working out, joining a club, taking classes. Going out with friends. Not dwelling on how much your life sucks right now. Because Life is what you make it, it might not be fair, it most certainly isn't, however, Life is still what you make it.
Sticking this out, doesn't mean you let life pass you by while you wait for your wife, it doesn't mean you turn into a hermit or become a flagellent martyr, offering up your life and happiness as penance so that your wife sees you suffer and decides to come back because of how pathetic you are. You REALLY don't want THAT to be the reason she comes back.
GAL = Enjoy life, fix yourself.
So Ral, since no one here is here because their marriage is wonderful, and since no failing marriage is the fault of just one person, what are your failings, what can you improve? Take a deep hard long look into your mirror, and really look at what you don't like about yourself...
Now work toward changing it, not for her, but for you. For selfish reasons, if you change it, your next relationship, hopefully with your wife, because your old one is dead, will be better for the change you have made.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
