Seeing things for what they really are... #52

[mishka422]

It seems to me that he is thinking that you are the only one that needed to change, that he is fine just as he is.

That is absolutely the problem! He doesn't think he has any culpability in the breakdown of your M. He puts the entire blame on you even if in words he says otherwise. His heart and head are telling him that he is dang near perfect just the way he is and "if only" YOU would change into a maleable doormat of a wife, everything would be perfect in his little world.

I know that sounds really cynical doesn't it? It's just the way things seem to me.

I hope that you can just step back K and let him figure this out. Try not to interact with him. Don't talk about his A or EA or whatever the heck it was. He isn't going to deal with it and expects you to just forget about it. I would say that at this point you need to let it go and either decide to take his claims that it wasn't an A as truth or accept in your own mind that it was and decide how you will deal with it for yourself. You won't be getting any admissions of guilt from him.