Because it seems to keep coming back to this. This is where I was slow to learn, this is what hurt her. ( Of course her attempts to address this put me off...another story).
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Have you apologized for this?
Numerous times. This does not reassure her that it will be any different however. But I am doing small things differently that I can...the jewelry for Christmas (she really liked it), an occasional card...little gifts or letters. These are appreciated with her and I am able to do this occasionally. This is something I did not do a lot of before.
As to the intimacy problems, I am planning to address that directly, with a clear description of what I would be willing to do to put the focus on her needs.
She seems to be willing to get together, to go out, so I think I will ask her soon. I need to rehearse what I am going to say re: my promises on addressing the intimacy issue.
I have not read the Relationship Cure, sounds good.
Yes, blame and accusations do contain the information that I want to hear, its just hard to filter out all the hurtful stuff and get the gold of what is being communicated. I'm better at it now, but really hope she learns a different way of expressing her needs someday....
Last edited by native; 01/07/0904:10 PM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
