Hi PM, I have just been catching up on your thread. You are doing the right things. Your MIL wants your M restored but she is also trying to be sympathetic with your son and what he thinks his happiness is.

Remember he is in fog babble. My H is a stranger to me. I do not even know him. I asked him for his new insurance card on Sunday (she is under his insurance) and it is Wed and no card?? WTH. If he was in his right mind I would have had it immediately especially since D is struggling right now. It is almost like he is blocking his old life out.

I know we have talked about exposure on my sitch. Does the rest of his family know he is having this A? What about the OW? Is she single, married? I know my H was shocked when I told SIL about A. He asked why I told her and I said it was the truth. When the A starts to be exposed it starts to pull it out of the fantasy world. That is the last thing that they want.
I have been praying about what I should do at work. I know what the right thing to do but I keep waffling because of my own needs. It has come to a point that finances are secondary.

I know it gets discouraging. I see your H left in March, mine left in Oct. I know you are feeling that your H should be showing some signs. somewhere in the DR book it said that it takes 1 month for every year of M for a MLC.

Start to GAL, what are you doing for yourself these days? take care. Praying for you.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09