Since things are relatively good with your ex-wife right now, it might be a good time to speak with her about how she can spend time away from the house with the kids.

To me the issue is that your children may begin to assume that things are moving back to ok with the two of you. They at least may begin wishing that you are getting back together. Should you find yourself in a new relationship at some point, this could lead to the children rejecting or acting poorly to that person, seeing her as a threat to what they think are their reconciling parents.

It's not a mean spirited thing to converse with your wife about the dangers of giving your kids false hope about things between the two of you. And again, if you are getting along peacefully now, this might be the time to brainstorm together about how to have them spend their time away from your home.

All of this is moot of course if there is any part of you that is still considering the possibility of a future reconciliation. In that case I would handle this much differently.

But I don't get the sense that you are thinking along these lines.


Blessings,

Bill

Last edited by Bworl; 01/07/09 04:04 PM.
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