O.K., here's where I'm at: I find it hard to believe h is conflicted; maybe, but unlikely. His process is slow and longterm. As long as ow is on scene (so painful) nothing will happen.
I agree with that, but I do think most As don't last and at some point when there isn't an OW, your H might want to work on your marriage. Esp. when he says she's "the one" as if there is just one right person for him. That is kind of immature thinking I think, and unrealistic, when they have problems as all Rs do, then will he still think she's the one? I don't think so.
I wouldn't file for D unless I was 100% sure about D which you don't sound; it's a difficult and painless (and $$$) process. Your GALing sounds great and I would keep that up. For myself at least I want to spend this year working on myself: my inside and outside, getting stronger, more confident, focusing on my family as well. It doesn't really matter whether I'm D or not, b/c I don't think it's a good idea to rush into dating right away... Karen
