WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice IV

[FaithfulH]

I do not believe I would be good company at that level now, and I really am not up to it at this point.

Remember, this is not about you being "good company" or "not up to it"....it is about giving God a chance to work in your entire family's lives. I am wondering if you think detachment is about leaving somebody behind because that is NOT it. It is also not a FOREVER thing....

Here's a personal example of detachment that happened to my W and I this week with our 18 year old son. We took him to start his Freshman year at the Culinary Institute of America in Hyde Park NY. For some reason, this was extremely hard for both of us even though we took our daughter to school 3 years ago and she is now a Junior at RISD in Providence. This was VERY hard! Lots of tears....but, then....I felt like the Lord was telling us to go...to leave...to DETACH...and my W was very much in agreement. We didn't stop thinking about him when we left....and we definitely didn't stop loving him....we were detaching for HIS benefit...because to do anything else was selfish and UN-loving. He needs the space to grow and start his own walk without us getting in the way of his growth. This is what detaching means for your W as well. It isn't so much about protecting YOUR heart (although it helps)....it is about loving her enough to let her grow without you in the way.

BTW....he is LOVING school (even though he has mostly been doing orientation and classes just start today).

The walk is good, hard, but good. Weird about the church thing, it really bothers me that I may miss church.

LD, you might find God in that box we call the church....but, the real church is US....we take God wherever we go....when you are fixing your W's car....at the foot of your bed....in the middle of a conversation with your W...wherever. It is OK to be drawn back to "church" but it is important that you KNOW that God is with you always and everywhere.