Mike - I thank you for you input as always. I think we are along the same lines. MOT35 is still married as she is in a complicated situation and needs to get some legal stuff sorted first re her dads company (as it's worth a few ££££) and she also owns some properties etc that ex could get his hands on (possibly) if she is not careful. As far as she tells me (and I totally believe her given the state she was in when he turned up saying he was moving back in...he seems gone again already !!). She would of seperated over a year ago were it not for this legal stuff.
I do question whether what I'm doing is wrong etc at times and I come to the same conclusion that i'm not. I've given her every opportunity to call it quits, I've even done so myself 2 or 3 times and it's not like were even in some sort of relationship. I do not believe I am clouding her jugdement as she seem so unhappy when anything to do with ex comes up, but on the flip side, I do know that was the same in reverse for me in my own sitch. The only difference being, I did work, her ex still seems to be a complete DAM and changing nothing so nothing is changing in her mind....
Every single sitch has there differences. I am open and honest, I've told her if there is any chance that she should try with her ex and i've said that more than once....I've encouraged her too, but she is done.
Anyway, nothing might come of it over time. And, it's not about the sex mike at all. I've had plenty of opportunities if it was but it's not like that with me. I enjoy female company and as mentioned, I have rarely had one night stands in my life, I like to know someone a bit now.
I am just thinking you will now fire back with it all seems like i'm trying to justify myself...maybe I am, but maybe that's as I like this girl and know she likes me for me.
