Update: An old boyfriend from over 23 years ago contacted me and wanted to talk. We talked on my lunch and that night for almost 3 hours! I think this has helped me alot. He knows my situation and knows where I stand. We are just having friendly conversation. Anyway, I had to call my ex about some papers on the house, I told him I had a lunch date and he said. Great, you need to go on with your life. (this was yesterday). When he actually saw that I was going out to lunch his attitude seemed to change a little. He was nicer to me it seemed. I told him I needed to get a new bed and he offered to give me his. I said NO WAY, I wouldnt want his bed for obvious reasons. I also asked him about a letter that a woman had sent him, talking about their night together. He apoligzed and said he never meant for me to find out about it. (because he knew it would hurt me). I also said to him that I felt like our marriage was a lie (most of it anyway) and that he had been cheating on me a long time. He said NO our marriage wasnt a lie, and he promised he did NOT cheat on me. When I question him about someone he has been with, he always promises me that it means nothing. Why does he do this? It's like he doesnt want me to be hurt or mad at him. He even will say that I am prettier. I dont understand him. It's like, now that he knows I am actually going on with my life, he trys to explain himself better, and always makes sure I understand these women mean nothing. I told me tonight that I was done calling him and that I meant it this time. I just wanted to know when he left town, just for emergency cases. He also says now, that he wants to try and help me pay for our house (that I got in the divorce). What do you all take from his actions? Shed some light for me please.
