Julia--I'll take another look at your thread shortly. It's my goal not to really be on the boards at work anymore, so I post less in general but will try to post before I head to work...
One thing is that my MIL emailed me when we first were separated telling me she knew I was going through a hard time, and that if I needed anything she was there for me. I wrote back and basically said that I didn't want to put her in the middle of things, but that it was always nice to hear from her. Then I didn't hear from her again until yesterday.
I am going to do my best to deflect and stay on safe topics, but I will bet money that she probes. OK, holidays are good topics especially since I can focus on what H was doing during them, therefore giving her bits about him without focusing on our problems. I REALLY wish I could back out of seeing her. I may try one other avenue which is to ask my best friend if she and her H can invite her over for dinner. They have a baby, and MIL likes the baby, so it might be a good way to try and keep topics safe and light. I know she wants to see me alone, but since she hasn't come out and said this directly, I can try this angle and hope that she feels that it's a good option.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
