WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice IV

[thrillisgone]

LD - Buddy, I'm always checkin' in from time to time. Seems to me that everything is going according to plan. You're making some really great strides in your life and your W is not. Great stuff. I say this because the patterns I see in MLC suggest that this is a recipe for success.

Your W will wake up after she hits the wall. What she will see is a HUGE contrast between you and the OM. At that point you will more than likely get a chance at reconciliation. However, you might just look at this woman and have a hard decision to make. It may very well depend on who your W is when she emerges from the fog.

One thing for sure is that the whole thing will take time. Counselors and books I've read all seem to point to a 18 month to 2 yr timeline for the affair to crash and 2-5 yrs for a MLC to be resolved....and then the work really begins!

Patience my man. Patience and faith. Faith that the current situation will resolve in your favor regardless of the outcome. I know it is tough. Been there. I'm still there. I love my ExW deeply but her life is out of my hands completely and has been for about a year now. Seems like an eternity but in the land of the lost it isn't. My ace in the hole? 30 years of love, laughter and time together. If I've learned anything through this mess it is that anything can happen. Until then I'm living my life and I see you are too. I'm still dating the same woman. We're still having fun. Tomorrow is my birthday and I figure any day they aren't covering you up with dirt is a really good day.

Gotta love life my friend. Even the pain. It makes us grow and learn and appreciate all we have. If you guys successfully reconcile it'll be worth all the pain and tears and then some. If you don't you'll still be 100 times the man you were before this all began.

Hang in there!