I want to apologize for some of my last post. I know that it probably sounded angry and expecting too much from my situation. It looks like I still have much to learn about DBing. I need to keep my mouth shut and stop defending myself to my W. I need to listen, validate and move on. I care about what she has to say and I am trying to understand where she is coming from. If everytime she says something I just defend myself and through it back at her then this will never go any where. Perhaps that has been a problem for a while. Maybe she is just telling me these things because she just wants me to listen and see it through her eyes. She is not wrong to have feelings but some of how she thinks I feel or think is not right. I whole heartedly accept this girl for who she really is. Instead of correcting her I should just keep my mouth shut and somehow try to show her how I really feel. Due to our lack of contact though this will be close to impossible or maybe even too late. How do I go about showing someone that I accept them for who they are when I do not even see or talk to them? Even the slightest bit of contact would be a blessing at this point.
Thanks for any advice.
Time for bed. The gym really kicked my butt this evening. Goodnight.
M 27 W 26 M 4.5 Years T 6 years Bomb Oct. '08; "ILYBIANILWY", "You don't fit into my life", "Our marriage had to have been a mistake because it is not working".
