Jayce, you know that I'm the baby of my family. I have 2 big sisters. They both live out of state so I don't get to see them a lot... but now a 3rd big cyber-sister.
Originally Posted By: Jayce
No one wants to be told that if they can't meet a spouse halfway they should cut him/her loose. No one wants to be the heavy, get the blame. Carry the guilt.
This is an important point and describes where I am with W again. I had asked her a few years ago why she had lost interest in sex and didn't want it(me?) anymore. Her answer was, "I don't know". I always wondered if she didn't want to tell me because it might mean my leaving her though.
It's as hard on the LD's as the HD's. The HD thinks: how could you LD's lose interest and let go of something that is so wonderful and connects couples in a special way? While the LD is thinking: why must you HD's hang onto something that naturally diminishes with age and time spent in a relationship.
It's just two different point of views, neither is right nor wrong. DQ had a discussion long ago about how the real solution is to match up HD/HD and LD/LD. There is so much more to relationships though than just sex drives, so even that is not an end solution. Besides drives can change too....
Originally Posted By: Jayce
On Diane's thread I mentioned not understanding LD women, but wishing they didn't see the rest of us as being abnormal or sluts. Its easy to say they probably never had a lover who satisfied them, as in no orgasms, but that's a myth.
My LD W does have a lover that satisfies her (uh, that would be me by the way). It makes no difference in her desire to feel that way again though. She can have a wonderful experience, like we did a few months ago, then go for a long period without even thinking about sex again. The difference for an HD is that when we have great sex our attitude is "let's do that again!"
I'm glad that you at least are having success Jayce. I thought I was on my way with her but there have been so many disappointments for me. The only difference as I've said is that we are nicer to each other now. It's not enough, what I really want is nice and sexy.
