Hi everyone, I don't have a lot of time, but just wanted to check in and say hello. I should be able to get online some over the next few days, so I'll be coming by every now and then...for now, I'm doing okay, just very tired - as I just could not sleep at all last night and had to do a lot of work once I got to Vegas...and now I have to get back to some writing that's due pretty soon...
A quick update on my interactions with my W - when I called tonight to say hi to my baby boy, it was back to more of the usual thing - she answered - handed the phone to my baby boy - and then I talked with him until he hung up. She had been taking the phone from him and talking with me for a bit after he would finish...but not tonight...I was tempted to call back just to ask how things went with her root canal...but I figured it was best just to let her be...if she didn't want to talk with me, that was fine...besides, like I said, I have a lot to do, and would rather put her out of my head for a while.
Hi everyone, I don't have a lot of time, but just wanted to check in and say hello. I should be able to get online some over the next few days, so I'll be coming by every now and then...for now, I'm doing okay, just very tired - as I just could not sleep at all last night and had to do a lot of work once I got to Vegas...and now I have to get back to some writing that's due pretty soon...
A quick update on my interactions with my W - when I called tonight to say hi to my baby boy, it was back to more of the usual thing - she answered - handed the phone to my baby boy - and then I talked with him until he hung up. She had been taking the phone from him and talking with me for a bit after he would finish...but not tonight...I was tempted to call back just to ask how things went with her root canal...but I figured it was best just to let her be...if she didn't want to talk with me, that was fine...besides, like I said, I have a lot to do, and would rather put her out of my head for a while.
Hey Carlos, That is what my W does to me as well. It used to really upset me but now I try and just role with it. It means she is struggling as well. In some ways it's better that she is still struggling instead of apathy. At least she still cares.
Have a great trip and I will start posting more to you soon. You will see we have very similar situations.
"All in" !!!!!
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
Hi Whitneyp - I know what you mean - it is part of her struggle - and the best thing I can do is just let her be. I wish I had more time to post - but I have to run out the door for a breakfast meeting now...I'll try to get on again later tonight.
Stay positive, everyone. -Carlos.
"All in!" (btw - the casinos were soooo empty last night...should change today, though, as the show proper starts tomorrow)....
Hey, Man. I've been slammed w/the start of the 2nd semester, but I'm caught up w/you and you are doing well and what you are experiencing is normal. Let the emotions come and let yourself cry when you feel like crying.
I miss my XW sometimes too. I also think of being w/her again too as well, so don't let that be a bad thing b/c it isn't. Remember you will love her forever b/c she is the mother of your boy, so it is ok to care.
As for her tone changing toward you, I think it is b/c she can see your strength and she can feel you pulling away - and she doesn't like it. However, I would expect you to be in a bit of a boxing match w/her for a long time. There will be rounds when you will "win" easily, but there will also be the rounds where she'll come at you w/full force and fury.
Until she is consistent - on a long term basis - you can't look to do anything different on your end. Keep your focus on your improvment and count her baby steps, but don't get too far ahead in your progress.
She'll be at this for a while, so keep going so you can handle the time inbetween w/out much trouble. Keep in mind this is NOTHING about you, but about her and her issues. It is her journey to take and you've got to not only let her take her "trip" but to stay on your course while she's away - that is the toughest part. It really sucks, but it is a necessary evil.
I'm glad you are doing well, my friend. Hang in there and keep venting and leaning on us here for support as we'll do as much as we can to help.
