Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

NikB-thank you, thank you, thank you. thank you. Your kindness and caring is appreciated more than you can probably ever know. If I get down to Cali, I am taking you out to a REALLY nice dinner.

I went to counseling with SS. Counselor was given (finally) all the info on what's going on. She said that SS must find a sober-living house and not go back to H's. She did say that even worse than the pot & drinking was the betrayal; that H was "picking" RM over his son. She also said that H has taken SS in and that SS being "in his face" only made him defensive- so all he should say is "Dad, I love you. Thank you for taking me in. I'm going to be finding a sober-living house once I am done with rehab."

I can see that both SS and I "suffer" from the idealistic thinking mentioned above. He kept saying "But why can't he see what he is doing? Why can't he just be my Dad? Why why why" The counselor said "because he isn't 'there'." Both of us are having a hard time "accepting" that H has become SO self-absorbed and that RM/music has become more important than family.

I leave first thing tomorrow to take SS to rehab. I guess I'll start a new thread once I return from the trip. Send STRENGTH and WISDOM my way