may be his "one true love"?

[Silver Fox]

Hi WIT,

I would slow way, way down. It sounds like you are very restless to move on but it doesn't sound like YOU are truly ready for the big D and your H's emotional responses should tell you that he is indeed VERY conflicted. In my book, conflicted is good.
From everything I've learned recently a WAS is very sure of ending the M, never looks back, and seems to have no regrets. An MLC'er on the other hand is completely mental - sure one minute, not sure the next. That's why you really shouldn't believe ANYTHING they do or say. That's why I'm waiting a little longer and trying to stall the D as much as possible.

It's been said quite often on this board that "if you don't know what to do then do nothing." Can you hold off a little longer? Let him make the decision? Do you think he might be hoping you'll make the decision for him?

Just some things to think about. I've finally figured out that one of the most important DB principles - GALing - is to help us work through the "uncertainty", to actually ignore it, while time flies by. It can keep you from making any drastic decisions. I believe filing for a D just to end the pain might cause more pain, especially if your H is coming around a bit.