I have been advised by my C, my physician and my L that W had no doubt controlled how the kids meeting with her C went.
She is a totally controlling person so I feel sure this is true. LIS, I know it's upsetting, but her getting a house could be a blessing in disguise for you and the kids. I think if you have a decent L, you should be able to get primary custody of the children. She has some emotional issues, that don't sound like they would be good for the kids. I would def. get involved in the kids' therapy right now, as involved as you can possibly get. My H is always kind of distant but even he talked to the kids' therapist once or twice when they started going. I'm thinking this would be good for your kids' sake and legally too maybe...
Your wife is toxic to you, and it sounds like to the kids lately too. If she wants to move out, I think you should try to be happy about that, & just don't let her have the kids too much. Although maybe she is better when you are not there, or worse, geez that's a scary thought!!! Sorry... Karen
