The honest truth is they don't care right now. They don't care who they hurt. My H and others here have gone through it too. They treat you like second class citizens. It's heartbreaking I know but deep down they know it is wrong.
Now it's time for you to get it together. Don't worry about what happened before. Do what you have to now.
Your H probably thinks he is going to a party. But remember all parties end. It will get old for him.
My H used to say things like that too. It made him feel less guilt but it will catch up to him.
