Talked to my W and S last night. As usual, the conversation is light and friendly. We wish each other happy new year. That's pretty much it. Overall I had a good evening. I went out with my friends to watch the bowl games. GT got killed by LSU....sucks.
My father passed away on New Year's eve 6 years ago, so I have not celebrate this event since he passed. I decided to go out and have fun yesterday. I guess it marks a new change in my life. Whatever coming this new year, I will handle them with the best of my ability. Accepted the results and keep going...!!
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
Good for you for getting yourself out of the house. I am sorry for the loss of your father, I know how losing someone on a holiday can change that holiday, but you seem to have handled it well.
I am glad you got to talk to your wife and your boy. Good job keeping things positive and light.
You seem to have an endless supply of PMA - how do you do that?
I'm sorry this time of the year was marked with sadness for you for so many years...though it warms my heart to know that you are stepping out of your sadness and staying positive.
I'm glad you went out - and that you had a chance to talk with your baby boy (and your wife). You're doing an incredible job of staying healthy - and focused - and it's helping so many of us in so many ways.
For all of us that stay focused and stay positive and work on ourselves...this will be a better year.
Xie xie ni, wode peng you. Wo xiang ni shi sifu. -Carlos.
Not a whole lot is going on.. My W and S suppose to come this weekend, but she just decide to cancel the trip. I was disappointed because I though I can see my son. Good thing I didn't let this keep me down. Instead I went out with my friends and watch the football game. I even meet some new friends this time. GAL and detaching is working better and better.
Keep on DBing and stay busy....!!
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
You are amazing! Truly, you are the DB model. I let any setback send me spiraling, and you just...bounce.
Good for you!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Hi V I am doing pretty good. I've been pretty busy at work, so it helps me focus. Now a days, I got my routine down pretty good. Take by boxer to the doggie park when I got off work. Go to local boys and girls club couple days a week to help the kids out. Spend couple hours in the gym 4 nights a week. Leave the weekends for my son, friends, family and of course GOLF... I have not join the bowling league yet....need to get on it. Just trying to stay busy and it helps my PMA and detachment. I have to live my life to the fullest no matter what...
I talked to my W several times a week now, and we keep it friendly. We even joke a bit sometimes. Of course, the OM is still in the picture, so this is all I can offer at this point. Actually she told me last night her current contract will end this month. She did sounds a little worry, I would too. I know she will running of $$ soon if she can't find a new contract. I just validated her feelings and gave her some encouragement. The old NW (fixer, rescuer) will express his worries in a heart beat and try to do whatever to help her. Now I just step back and give her my vote of confident. I told her "You will figure out what you need to do, you always do." She even said she will take a job anywhere. I hope she can find one back to Atlanta, but who knows....keep the expectation at zero. It is better this way. If she running out of $, I don't think I will help her. I don't think she will ask anyway. She has too much pride. I would just suggest son can stay with me while you are sorting out the financial matters. This is the hard reality that she needs to face and experience. After all this is her decision.
Got to stay busy and keep going...
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
Tremendous! Not only do you keep the PMA going nonstop but you really have filled up your life quite nicely with GAL things. I need to get better at that.
I like your approach with your W. It seems to me that you and she are talking more often, is that right? And it is great that you are able to joke sometimes, too. You are right that this is all you can do while there is OM, but that is a lot. Remember the MWD article about being the WAS's friend through it all. I think it is callwed "While She Decides." You are clearly the better choice.
I also think you are making the right decision not to try to fix/help her. That is a 180 for you and that will not go unnoticed, in time.
