I thought I had better start a new thread as my old one is getting up there in postings.
Been a busy day.
H came over EARLY today--right at noon!! I thought for sure much later but not today.
I think he knew he could not work on the spark plugs because in this car, it needs to be put on a lift (?) and you have to do it from underneath. He did replace the windshield wipers and put in necessary fluids instead.
He was here until after 7PM and said he would be coming back on Wednesday.
Oh--when he and S18 were getting into the car, S18 noticed something furry on the windshield--it was a dead mouse!! We have never seen mice around here and who knows where that came from!!!!
That was the extent of my day.
Hope yours was okay.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, I'm glad he showed up and did something on the car. I sure wish he'd get himself together.
I want to share something w/you because your nut is just as tough as the nut I'm divorced from. Last night, the x sent to my home email and work email addresses a "friend request from the x" for myYearbook.com. What the heck is that all about? This is the same type of url/chatrooms that my x was in when he met the HO years ago. Now, really, does he think I'm going to accept this invitation and chat w/him online when I can just drop him an email if the notion should ever strike me? Where is the logic in all of this? See, they are truly nuts.
Just thought I'd share a little tidbit about old Rip Van Winkle...he's waking up very slowly after 9 years, but it's too little too late and my million dollar question of the day is where is the HO/wife at?
I do hope you are doing okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
B, He's won that award at least 5 times thus far! He's just a real unique piece of work.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I just cannot imagine you going to one of those chat rooms-lol!!!!
Really, it will be interesting to see if he contacts you by other means even though it has been some time. You never know with these men.
Yeah, where is that woman, now, or maybe she is there but he is attempting to do to her what he did to you?
H is coming over tomorrow so I will get to see him again. Feels like he is here a lot these days. Now I know he took S and I to work and picked us up last week but he did not have to stay at our house all of those days but he did, from about 10AM until after 5PM! I didn't mind. I actually think it was a good thing to be "at home" all day.
And yesterday, we were in shock as he came over at noon. So not like him.
And I am keeping busy with my little job so I haven't had time to think much about what he is doing.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm very glad your h is coming to take you and your son to work. At least he's being "responsible" in one area. Do you have any idea what he does during the day while you are gone? Can you see anything he's done? Maybe he sleeps?
Yeah, I can just see me in a chat room! LOL! That's how he met the HO! I'd dearly love to know what he's up to. He's been reaching out a bit since 2005 (after my bil was killed). Why the man even shared w/me several weeks ago that he was stupid to purchase a townhouse w/stairs. He fell from the top landing to 2/3 down the steps. Sprained his back and he's black and blue. My thoughts were, after I laughed myself silly, too bad it didn't break his neck or let's hope it knocked some sense into him. That was 12/14. Hadn't heard from him since. But I do know this, if I communicate w/him via email, the phone calls at home, work and the movement of things at my home ceases. If I'm dim or dark for any length of time, he's back in full action. He's definitely one that is totally gone and will never be back to the real world.
Just thought I'd share w/you just how stubborn they can be to stay in the "pit".
Enjoy your evening.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
When H is here, he sits on the patio (usually alone) or watches tv. He drinks soda or water. He has not had alcohol here since last summer!
From what D16 says, he does not sleep.
Snodderly, thanks for sharing about the chat room stuff. Makes me laugh!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
It is funny, isn't it? My first thought was, what do I need to chat w/him about? We have nothing to discuss and we've been divorced for almost 7 years. Sad that it took him this long to wake up. Oh, well...
Your h sounds like he's doing most of the normal things that a depressed person would do. What you described takes very little energy and thought. It's sad, isn't it?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
