Why not just sit and talk to her at length about this, without the ultimatum? You guys are at a better place. Maybe wait until the bed comes, give it a week, and then talk. Do you really think if you said that the only way you can heal this relationship is for you two to go to counseling or retrouvaille or whatever that she would say, "No, let's divorce."? In fact, if she is just waiting it out like you fear, this would be a good time to ask her to do some of these things because she doesn't want to leave NOW.
