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[Sophie]

Well today H sent an email asking for money. He said he can no longer pay bills 'a-b-c-d'. I only feel threatened.

I did not reply in writing but I called and said that with the divorce active, especially with the fact that he is asking for EVERYTHING....I cannot discuss anything with him...nor take on any other financial obligations. I have done all I can.

He didn't get it!!!'

He kept at me for money.

I don't feel threatened by a divorce anymore. I feel threatened financially!

He has had his share for 3 years...and now, because he quit one of his jobs...he doesn't have money.

H wouldn't hear of any other suggestion from me...nor really anything that would change how his life style has been since he left.

He just wanted me to give him money.

The discussion got a little heated, but I stood my ground. Whenever he asked anything about what I figured would be in a 'settlement', I refused to talk about it.

H felt we should be able to talk about it without lawyers. So, I said dismiss the case, so I can get my retainer back and we'll talk.

He is a lunatic....when he speaks to me, my instinct is to respect and believe in his opinions. I adored my father who was almost always right. It takes me a while to realize H does not know what's what.

H keeps coming to me for money....he says I never want to talk about it. I told him I have ON MY OWN over the last three years just taken on a huge chunk without being asked. I just did it. I can't do any more for him.

I didn't expect this after his 'family guy' weekend.

He says he's looking for a cheaper place...looking isn't a solution.

I REALLY do not feel RUDE anymore. You guys are RIGHT!! He is RUDE...and CRUEL.