There is never clarity in the actions they do....he hung up on his sister because he knew deep down she is right. He just doesn't know how to fix it and thinks everyone is better off with it staying the way it is. He can never take back the pain he has caused, he knows he can never face you or his girls in the same way. The guilt overwhelms them and consumes them and its almost like they do whatever it takes to convince themselves that divorcing is the best option. They believe this OW "makes them happier" when in the long run it never does.
It's such a vicious cycle and the saddest but hardest part is that let's say you and I do move on and we find someone else that is a great guy...this is when our H's will come back, ask for forgiveness, want to start over, etc.... it's fate. When we are finally finding happiness they realize what they have lost and it may just be too late.
My H has not said anything about the D papers being dismissed and I don't intend on bringing it up. What threw me for a loop was an email he sent to me yesterday asking for my help in designing a logo for his new real estate brokerage that he plans to start once he gets his brocker license. I read it and was like WTH??? Why doesn't he get his GF to help him? Why me? I thought to myself is this an opportunity for me to work on the R or is it him being selfish and using me because of my computer background. Not sure what to do....
How is work going now that your back from your trip?
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
