He stayed out all night again at Tom's or wherever
He has another panic attack thing and says he can't do this, goes back to stay at his parents or Tom's.
If he leaves again, he stays gone. If he melts down again about how hard it is to do this, he is gone.
If he acts like my husband/partner/friend, then we will take it one day at a time and see how it goes.
I just had to jump off the crazy train and live life at this point. It has been passing me by while I think, overthink, plan, overplan, etc etc... I have no desire to file right now b/c I am ready for a break from thinking about that crap. Just want to do my thing!