My Ex has been spending more and more time at my house lately. Relax, it's not me she is interested in. It is the kids. I think she really misses being a full time mom.
It's starting to make me a little uncomfortable. I don't know what to do about it because the kids are happy and doing so well. I am just finding myself outside or in the garage more doing my own thing. It's not that I don't like her or it's tense. I just have moved on.
Since things are relatively good with your ex-wife right now, it might be a good time to speak with her about how she can spend time away from the house with the kids.
To me the issue is that your children may begin to assume that things are moving back to ok with the two of you. They at least may begin wishing that you are getting back together. Should you find yourself in a new relationship at some point, this could lead to the children rejecting or acting poorly to that person, seeing her as a threat to what they think are their reconciling parents.
It's not a mean spirited thing to converse with your wife about the dangers of giving your kids false hope about things between the two of you. And again, if you are getting along peacefully now, this might be the time to brainstorm together about how to have them spend their time away from your home.
All of this is moot of course if there is any part of you that is still considering the possibility of a future reconciliation. In that case I would handle this much differently.
But I don't get the sense that you are thinking along these lines.
Blessings,
Bill
Last edited by Bworl; 01/07/0904:04 PM.
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
I know last month when H and I were doing our "calendar" thing, he spent most of 'his' nights at our house hanging out with the kids b/c he had nowhere to go with them. It was odd, I didn't want to feel 'underfoot', etc.
I know yours is a different situation, but I can empathize somewhat.
Does she talk to you while she is there? I know you said it isn't tense or anything, but I just wondered if you guys interacted or if you just headed to the garage once she came over...
I forget, I thought she had a place? Could she not take the kids over there? Or take them out sometimes? Or do you think she missed home (I don't necessarily mean you), being at her 'home' with the kids?
Hey amigo, somehow I felt that "relax" comment was directed at me. When I have d8 and she is on the phone with her mom, I tend to leave the room. So I know what you mean about going to the garage or outside. I actually asked myself why I do that.
