Guilty? Embarassed? Ashamed?
BBJ, you have no reason in the world to feel this way. We all have our opinions which we form by hearing one person's side of the story (in this case you). At the end of the day, you are the one at the front lines. Am I surprised that you would even entertain continuing with Dan....yes. Am I surprised that Dan seems to have had a change of heart.....no. I do not think you will find many posters who like Dan....but you are his spouse not us.
I refuse to judge you or anybody else on these boards.