In our state, debt is jointly responsibile but we are a fault state and if I can prove adultery (yes), and show how he racked up the credit card debt since the A started the judges here do not look kindly on that. The OW knows the system and I see the influence in H's actions. 401K funds are also 1/2 mine. I did withdraw some from mine also but put it into "gift" CDs for my daughters, so when the court looks at what I did with my portion and what he did with his (spend spend spend) he might have to come up with my 1/2. I have spoken to 2 Ls about this. My H is truly an alien. Next will be his job lost because the OW is his direct report. At least this experience has brought my family closer to God. Someone told me believe it or not you are exactly where you are supposed to be right now. I have to believe God is handling this, even though I struggle in turning this over to Him.
Glad to see you are making progress in your own M. You have helped so many others -- you deserve the M that we all want also.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
