I assume you mean dealing with your D, not your illness.
It will never go away, unfortunately, especially since you share kids. I still have issues dealing with XW, even 5 years later. But the difference is how it affects you and how you deal with it. And if you take a look at your progress over the last year, I think you are doing great. XH affects you still, but I don't think you let him dictate your actions like he used to. You are moving in the right direction.
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