I know exactly how you feel about planning things! I hate this state of limbo, but I think all we can really do at this point is take it one day at a time. The Bible says that we should not worry about tomorrow, because today has enough worries of its own, so I try to think of that. Afterall, how much control do we really have over these things? Also, remember that although we may plan God may have other things in mind for us. I'm really trying to see that through all of this God is trying to teach me something. I've been a believer for 10 years now, so I know that he is with me and he is allowing (but definitely not causing!) this in my life for a reason and purpose, so I am just trying to make knowing his will my focus in life. Just try to focus on yourself and the things that you would like to change in your own life. Let your H worry about himself. I think if it's truly meant to be between the two of you then it will happen regardless of what you do or don't do. I don't know, I suddenly feel very differently about my own situation. I was so sad and hurt and confused and all of that and all I wanted to do was hold on to my W with all my might, but now I am very at peace with my life. It's very wierd and it seemed to have happened very suddenly. Things changed for me when I decided to take some matters into my own hands to secure myself financially. I realized that she really doesn't want me right now and I don't think that I want her either at this point. She's just no longer the woman I married and the things that she values at this time in her life are in total opposition to what I value. Deep down inside I hope things change between us, but only if that means my needs are being met. I don't want to be married to her just for the sake of being married. Do you feel that way as well? Ask yourself what you want in a H; does your H meet those needs? Did he ever? Do you think he can? I think that is a good starting point in regards to planning and doing.
