PM we are a very similar sitch. I too am 38 and my boys are 12 and 6. I just know that regardless of how I feel for my wife, that I have to be here for my kids everyday and am not able to put a lot of effort into the DBing while she is not here. As someone said in another thread, you have to let them go and take care of yourself and your kids. They make choices and we can't change that.
