Hi PB, when you get the book it explains it much better than I can. I know with T2L, she did plan A for 5/6 weeks and chose a date she went dark. She gave him a letter detailing what she wanted. Said she loved him but could no longer share him with other woman, and he has to make all contact about children/bills through a trusted 3rd party until conditions of letter are met. In this way you are not just hanging on waiting for your H to make up his mind. Plan A is like DBing but with a more difinitive end. Get the book. read it and take the quiz for your h. Pick his top 5 emotional needs. Your sitch sounds like it would do well with this. If you can contact trying2live she will advice you. Also go to the marriagebuilders website. You can get more info from there also.
In my situation I cannot do Plan A because my H has not cake eat or given me any hope of reconcillation. He has not made any attempt but I wish I could try to apply in the future.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
