Tonight my H actually left for the night. He is staying at OW's house and still claims that they are just friends and "where else am I supposed to stay?" I told him that if he would agree to stop contact with OW he could stay here, but he still isn't willing to do that.
My C recommended I change the way I discuss the OW a little and I did that tonight. I made a point to say that "the R with OW is hurtful to me." H continues to reinterate that they are "just friends", but I said the "friendship" is hurtful to me. If I had a friend that made him uncomfortable, out of respect for my H and his needs I would stop contact with my friend. Until he is willing to do that, I cannot move forward.
So, here I am, home alone with the kids, and actually feel at peace with my decision. I hope that he can respect that these are my needs. Today he thanked me for dinner, something that he hasn't done for ages, and actually talked about getting a second job to help us with finances. IDK, I want to believe him, but I know that I really shouldn't.
My biggest concern is where to go from here. I stood my ground and now we are sleeping apart, but what now? Where do we go from here? I am a planner and a doer, and I feel like I don't know what to do.
