Thanks for checking on me, I posted on my thread and could really use some "men's" point of view on manly thinkings.
yeah, aparently we were cross posting as you left this one I was hard at work giving you my male pov on your's.
Originally Posted By: sandy
Well, in catching up on your situation, I am as confused as ever. You know we have discussed briefly this "attraction" thing before. I don't know if that is much of reason for maintaining a marriage but I know if that's one obstacle you don't face it's a plus. I really enjoy that time with my H and always have. But then, all my GF's have always thought I was weird or different and I never could understand why they didn't "feel like it".
While our bedroom chemistry and desires for each other have seemed to have been the rock that we can count on to get us through when so many other things are going oh so wrong with us. It is not the only time that we are able to enjoy each other's company. It is an enjoyment that for now surpasses all the other non-bedroom time but we can smile and have laughter with each other. And it has long been known that the surest way for us to end any fight dead in its tracks is to simply look into each other's eyes. We can both be stubborn donkeys and will refuse to do the eye contact when that is what oughta happen every time. Works like a charm. She can't stay mad at me and I can't with her.
Originally Posted By: sandy
Have you tried "refusing" that part with her. If so, what happened? If not, why not try the 180?
This is an interesting one and a real testament to doing 180's. Cuz about a month or two ago I boycotted the ML for nearly a month (seemed like an eternity for us ..I am blessed )
And get this ...her remark to me was, "Your choosing not to have sex with me for the time was the smartest thing you could have done, I think cuz it drew me back to you and a real strong way."
