{{{hugs}}}} tx mom, I just posted on my sitch. Stop over and read. Feel we are in he same boat. My H is spending like crazy, drinking (but has no problem) and the list goes on. He wants a D. I saw 2 L and will see a third this week. Your right we need to protect ourselves financially. Yes we love them, we pray for them to restore their souls and hearts to us under God's plan. But we do have to protect our families.
I think our Hs know that they can rack up the credit card debt and figure we are 1/2 responsibile. I have been looking at his charges and have made copies so if it goes to court I can show the reckless spending on the OW (vegas, SA, mexico all in a 2 month period, while we are trying to watch our bills.
Texas Divorce is pretty bad with the community property so you need to claim fault to cover yourself.
If it comes to D, we cannot stop it but I have read other sitch where D were final and the reconcillation came after.
God has a plan and someone told me that we are where we are supposed to be right now even if we don't agree.
Continue to pray for each other.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
