The similarities between us is amazing. I too was very depressed for a lot of years and know it was very difficult for h. I felt for a very long time that I couldnt blame him for wanting out. Although he was controlling and judgemental throughout our marriage. I realize now we were both unhappy.
But, having an affair is not ok. My h should not be having one. If he was that unhappy, he should have told me.
I feel the same way, once son is off to college, there is nothing drawing him back. He seems so far removed from the marriage. But I am the mother of his child, have a 30 year history with him - so who knows.
We just have to keep moving forward. One step at a time.
