I have been banned from the boards for knowingly and willfully breaking a rule and posting my email address briefly last week. That's why you haven't heard anything from me however I am being kept in the loop on your situations. My last update was this afternoon.
LD - You have all the tools you need to get through this. There is nothing that can be added or taken away. Everything is at your disposal. It is up to you whether or not you will use them. Good luck and God bless. You are still doing fine.
DDay - My, my, my how time changes things, eh?! The biggest message I wish you would receive is that you need to be the strong AND SILENT man now. Let that soon-to-be-ex OM be the one raising the roof and stressing out your wife. If you add to her stress you just might be the one to lose. Now is your very best opportunity to show her how you have grown and matured through this experience. I know it's hard after all that's happened but trust the words she said to you. You have absolutely nothing to lose by giving her the benefit of the doubt one more time - and you just might win it all. If you call/text her when she's trying to handle her business, you could find yourself on the losing end simply because you could be the straw that broke the camel's back. Be strong and be still. And BELIEVE. Worst case scenario, she doesn't come back after all - well you've already been prepared for that. What say you just give her one more shot to pull herself outta this nosedive? I'm not saying be a doormat or give her gobs of time to work this all out - just be reasonable. And don't pressure her. Let things fall apart naturally - as they HAVE BEEN - so that you and she can fall back together - as YOU SHOULD.
OK?
Good luck!
Peace, gentlemen - love ya!
AmyC
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
