Sandi, I think you just misunderstood my post. I think a big step would be to have her just SLEEPING in the marital bed again. At first, reading your post, it seemed like you were just on a rant, but midpost, you started to make sense and hit the mark.
Sorry if I got you riled up.
Honey, I think I just got "mixed up"! I didn' know who the heck I was talking to!
Yeah, I probably did misunderstand b/c that was what I thought you were saying--that you wanted to get her into bed for sex, but that you wanted her to initiate it. And, yeah, I'll have to admit that some old wounds tried to open again thinking about that. You see, to me, when a woman goes to all the trouble she went to to do what she KNOWS you like, then that is her way of initiating affection. But, as I said before, unless it has always been her nature to do initiate sex, then she probably has a very difficult time, especially if it has been a long time since the two of you ML. I also know that women are like men in one respect of all of this.....and that is the fact they want what they can't have quiet so easily. That is why I said make her work for it a little bit longer, but don't push your luck. Also, like when she came into the room looking all hot and just the way you like her.......you could have given a soft, slow, wolf wistle and when she looked at you, give her a wink. God, there is nothing sexier than a wink! You could have even patted the seat and said, "Hey pretty lady, come over her and sit next to me, cause I am cold and you are soooo hot." (Or something cheesy like that. ) If she did, but didn't smile.....then that would have told you she wasn't ready for anything more, but if she had smiled and went to sit close to you.....then that is when you could have continue with the playfullness and let nature take its course. But, if you don't build up to in before you even get close to the bedroom hallway, then you probably aren't going to get positive results in the bedroom.
Anyway, if you tried all that and I was blind and missed it, I apologize. And, I didn't mean to be beating you up. Friends?
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
) If she did, but didn't smile.....then that would have told you she wasn't ready for anything more, but if she had smiled and went to sit close to you.....then that is when you could have continue with the playfullness and let nature take its course. But, if you don't build up to in before you even get close to the bedroom hallway, then you probably aren't going to get positive results in the bedroom. 
