I was thinking of you. I hope you are ok.. eat little and often if you are having trouble with your appetite! As SirePrize said, at least it makes SOME sense. I also think the stuff she said in MC, which you alluded to, about your R and passion and stuff was a smokescreen.. that was her guilt. She knew you were a good man and didnt deserve this, she said so herself, sayong you were in the top 95% of men, right? She was clutching at straws to justify it.
I dont really believe that this 'started' after she left..its more probable there was some friendship there I guess. She met him at work, right? She walked out on you without being able to give any valid reasons? And this woman seems pretty certain her H of 35 years had an EA with your W. I believe the A didnt start till later though. As it did for my ex, but I believe that Helen 'caught his eye'. Its just a chance thing.. a chance meeting. If he hadnt gone to work there, it might not have happened, same as for your W.
When she said this, I feel that this is also her guilt talking, else why else wou;d she protest so much? "Then she sent me another email saying I'm obviously on a "witchhunt" with this ow and that if I want to get my facts straight, we could do so in a couple session. It was very aggressively worded. I think she sent this because the w. was phoning her husband like crazy this morning, confronting him repeatedly on things."
This OM is now being confronted with what he has done to a W of 35 years. He is going to have a lot of guilt to deal with also. It sounds like they are both facing the music right now and it cant be pleasant. Dont be so certain that everything is rosey in their R. I am sure you are imagining all sorts, but you dont know if it is working out for them, or how this man feels about his exW, or how your ex feels about the W coming back into the frame now.
There are alot of unknowns, so try not to torture yourself wondering. You are an amazing guy. Sensitive, kind, intelligent, caring.. you have potrayed the upmost dignity in your sitch. Please remember you are lovable and this is just a horrible thing to have happened. As it is for many of us.
