Anger = Healing?

[Livin4ME]

I want to thank everyone for their prayers. stbx DID show up with OW. BIL warned FIL about 2 minutes before they walked in. He made sure to be near MIL. A few minutes after their arrival, I was surrounded by family asking if I was ok. I handled it very well. We just kept our distance. He walked by and tapped me once and said hi so I turned around and asked how the kids were, he replied and I turned back around. Thru it all, I had about 15 family members come up and ask me if I was ok and how he could bring her. Then the next statement was either, "she's hideous!", "so ugly!", "yuck!", "he's stupid!", "what does he see in her!?" or my favorite, "I wouldn't even give her a 3 to your 8!" lol
If he drew the line yesterday, the whole family let him know that they didn't see it.
Of course, he decided to be a jerk last night. He's had the kids since New Year's Eve and brought them back last night. I noticed he didn't bring back S3's favorite stuffed animal that he can't sleep without. So I asked if he could meet me half way so he could have it for last night. His response was that he wasn't going to waste the gas and I needed to learn how to tell our son no and stop letting him walk all over me as I heard OW laughing in the background. So I drove the 45 minutes to his apartment to get the stuff animal so S3 could sleep.
Today was the actual service, but I couldn't go because of no sitter. But I took them to the luncheon afterwards at the request of MIL.
So over all, it went well, given the circumstances. I didn't let them get to me and I was able to put them aside and be there for the family.