It was good to read that he did concede he was wrong to leave and go home early those nights. And that he has been being a LITTLE bit more affectionate with you? Its good that he isnt ashamed to be seen with you at social and family functions, which I guess makes it 'easier' to spend time together, if there is no awkwardness in public. I can see you are concerned about hte kids still and thats not surprising. He still doesnt seem to be able to 'own' the damage he has done.. to you, the kids, your finances...
but you read Cyrenas post, right? This bit really jumped out at me and I instantly thought of you. Because you said you think H DID have an MLC and yet, he continues to react slowly:
Originally Posted By: Cyrena on my thread
Finally, he said he wanted to work on the marriage. He said goodbye to the OW (who he still saw as virtually perfect), and took an interest in the kids again, and stopped feeling such pains. Of course, I expected he'd apologize, and recognize my strength in getting through this nightmare, and be his loving self again. Wrong!! Coming out of the depression took another 9 months. He didn't get me anything for our anniversary--though he'd put a lot of thought into it--because he couldn't make a decision. He seemed to stop all attempts to improve things between us. For the longest time he would shut down if I said anything about his whole MLC and EA, or even if I was obviously upset about anything. He'd occasionally say "sorry," but couldn't explain which part he was sorry for.
Although your H is more workaholic than depressed!? I dont now if thats helpful, but it seems you are not alone, perhaps she went through some of what you are going through now.
How cold is it there? Its -7 at my Dads house! Not so cold here though.
Glad you are feeling better! I am feeling calmer too this evening. Love Al xxx
