Yeah, wii, you're right. I'm posting my response to her, which I will NOT send on your urging, but man, it makes me feel GREAT to write it and post it! Here goes!
HER EMAIL TO ME:
D16 staying at your place is not optional for you, it has to be done. I will be away that weekend as well as the weekend of Feb. 14/15. she is not allowed to stay in my house when I'm not there.
As she sat home alone yesterday she spent the day binging and purging. I know you’re aware that a major part of her profile related to her eating disorder is having an absent father. Please make a decision about your role in her life and let her and me know so she and I can stop waiting and hoping for a healthy relationship between the two of you if you are not able to give her one.
MY RESPONSE. NOT SENT, GOOD CALL wii!
Thank you for sharing your interpretation that D16 binges and purges because of an "absent father". Thank you for also setting up the conditions that lead to this.
I will continue to encourage D16 to be with me the same days as S10. I love spending time with my daughter(s) and wanted to see her yesterday. I called her twice yesterday to make that happen. I am more than happy to have her on the same days as I have S10.
Did you forget that D18 is living with me because she can't live with you? Maybe you can reflect on why that is the next time you want to spout off about parenting, and your diagnosis of why D16 binges and purges. Did you offer to have D18 stay with you so that D16 could stay with me? And speaking of parenting and having no relationship with a daughter; D18 spent a grand total of about 4 hours with you and your significant other over the vacation. How much time did you enjoy with S10 over the week of Christmas? No problem. I love having him.
Please do not ever try and take the moral high ground with me.You abdicated that right a long time ago by entering into an affair with your married boss. And I am glad that you don't have a problem with the friends I keep. Does your boss' wife have "absolutely no problem with your relationship with him"? Is she OK with him buying D16 a Jeep? No confusion on D16's part there, right? Is she OK with him fixing up the basement in my home? These are the questions I want you to answer.
