Must I return to earth .....turbulence smurbulence

[sandycay]

If they were in a committed, married relationship... I say Yes! Why? Because I have/am in that W's situation..kinda.

I am naturally petite....my ring size is a 4... I am 5'2 and change. Now, when I birthed my first child my stomach was stretched beyond repair. The muscles seperated during my ninth month and the skin lost all elasticity. Then on my 2nd birth I had an emergency c-section. Now the skin has a nice little shelf to hang off... Yuck. Not for him but for me it's a downer. Then to top it off...3 years ago my thyroid went wacko and I gained more weight than I did with both pregnancies. I have lost that with lots of hard running and work. What I am getting at is that even when I weigh 110, I still have tummy yuckies! It just tucks better in jeans. My skin just didn't have the elasticity to recover and the muscles are forever apart. If this W ever wants to get pregnant this type of surgery is not recommended until all pregnancies are done.

So, I am saying if she has these issues and is overweight it's a huge mental for some it is/was for me. I have always wanted to get my tummy fixed and have consulted a surgeon finally and am considering. However, the scar from the surgery is prominent, but I am already scarred from pelvic to pelvic to so would I rather have a scar with skin hang or flat tummy with a scar... Duh! I wish I would have done it years ago after the birth of last child. It bothers me but I don't want it to be a rash decision based on what has happened in the last year. I have discussed with my C about this as well. I will say that in order to have good results you should be within 15 pounds of your goal weight. Per the surgeon I saw.

I feel guilty about the money and it seems vain in some respects but my C sees it differently. She says it's time for me to do something for me. On the money ..... it will be cheaper than what was spent during our S so maybe I feel I "deserve" it. But then that doesn't feel right either. I wrestle with taking the plunge as the recovery is long and H has to take 2 weeks off to care for me....

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