Then I could see him in the good guy role. But now, with continuing lying and deception, I find it very very difficult to not see that he has done ANYTHING WRONG? Is he still in a fog to think that he is still A GOOD GUY?
PM, I asked that same ? a few months ago. G or Lodo, can't remember which, told me your H wants people to think he's a good guy, but he doesn't want to actually be a good guy. And I think that's true in your case as well. Um, lying, cheating people can't possibly believe they are the good guy, but I do know they try to cast us as the bad guy and they are the victim and stuff like that. I do think eventually one day they might realize some of the damage and destruction they've done, but often too late probably...
One book that I read that was really good about this, it talks about the script they seem to be using, and the book is called "The Script" is really good. My jaw was open when I was reading the whole thing b/c I swear if I didn't know better I would have thought my H had read the book! And they also give some advice about what you should do, but a lot of it basically boils down to doing 180s and not falling into the predictable stuff they would like us to. The WAS' actions are very, very predictable!!! Karen
